Codependency is rooted in fear. Fear of loss, abandonment, hurt, death, being alone, being lonely…. Love begins within, not without. It is what you show up with, not what you expect to experience from another. Love, that blossoms from the self, empowers you to stand in your own inner truth, strength and awareness. This enables you to love from the resilient, powerful foundation of self integrity, and self alignment.
Fear on the other hand causes you to define yourself by or in relation to your externalities, like your partner, friends, family, job, heresay, belongings or assets. When fear runs the show, what someone else thinks of you comes to define you more than your own understanding and real time experience of self. This ignorance results in the willing participation and perpetuation of toxic connections that can last the length of your lifetime. Such stale mate relationships occur when we stop holding our selves accountable within, and dismiss our need for personal expansion, transformation, and original, vulnerable self expression.
Love evokes joy and invokes freedom and abundance.
Fear underscores lack and results in cycles of inner and outer paucity.
It is thus unequivocally important to make the conscious choice to show up for your self and others from a space of love, not fear.